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Monday, March 06, 2006

<<<Unbreak Your Heart>>>

A friend in need is a friend indeed. To my friend who is in need of a listening ear, i wouldnt close the door on you.Let there be light for every turn in our corner of our lives.A life to live or a life to lead; choices are yours.I am not an adviser, merely an audience.To XXX, call me anytime, if u feel like it.
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When a relationship turns sour, at least, there is still a taste.
The letting go ensues when the initial taste changes or, turns bland.
Which is worse?You decide.

Would you salvage a break up?

I am in no position to advice. But, in cases where there is potential to resuscitate a relationship, I advise FOR it. You may not know what is to come in the future. True. You may find another new exciting cow in a fresh patch of grassland, upon letting go of this cow, which has been so routined into your life. But, this letting go may also signal an empty pasture in future roads to be travelled ALONE. Yet,NEVER let the feeling of loneliness intimidate a decision to enter or exit a relationship. Companionship can never fill a void heart or soul. Physical presence undermines the true essence of loving another individual.Mind and soul, that is what I desire personally.

For me, it depends on the cause of the break up. In fact, the couple gotta iron out and dig at the ROOT cause, not superficial ones.How often have we heard lame excuses that trigger break ups? We cant be foolish enuf to tk everythg heard at 'face-values'.Only the couple knows best. After all they have been through, if there is still no potential for a make-up, then, the very least mutual respect and farewell gift for each other would be a peaceful good-bye and a heavy box of fated-yet-not-destined-to-be memories.

Each r/s bears its own matrix of solvable and unsolvable eqns.Many a times, untold stories are the exact gelling agents that linked the two hearts.A third part finds it hard to phantom without missing a specific part here n there.Sympathy we can shower; but, courage, u give it yourself.

For one who is suffering from the rebounce, it is often leading in a world of darkness. But, it need not necessarily be a pitch-black-pitless-bottom. At the end of the day, you have cherished buddies who genuinely wish to see you on the road to fantastic singlehood!We will be there for you.Be brave. A heartbreak can scissor your heart into jigsaws, with many missing fragments,till you feel suddenly bewildered. Recognise the sudden loss will not be temporary, but, it will not be permanent as well. If that man is worth your stinging tears, go ahead, cry it all out. He deserves your last tears for him and you owe it to him for becoming a stronger lady in getting to know him, just like you have nurtured him in your feminine demeanour. No party wishes for a parting. No one expects a tragedy anyway. So really, there is no one to blame or to take the blame.But, reality factors in too much of disturbances (or the lack thereof) that sometimes, love just aint enuf.

Having being in a relationship, you are way way more fortunate than those who have yet to taste the (bitter)sweet fruit.[Hey., singles, dun envy the non-singles.]Now, you are on the way to learning how to love a person, and to love thyself to a deeper extent. Maybe not totally an expert, but growing wiser to be loving and be loved. How can there be a loss if both gained out of it? Optimissm is in our state of mind.

As for the issue of fairness,which i purposely dodged,I myself bear no idea how to maintain it on such a delicate sensitive balance.To me, in a relationship, it is often hard for both parties to be equally giving or receiving. Tentatively, one party will be the dominant receiver, the other the giver. So, tilting or untilting the balance...well,i shall leave it in the hands of CUPID.[Angel or Devil?]

Sometimes,LOVE seem so like a forbidden fruit!Sometimes, the mischievious fruit follow orders from CUPID, to hide until the season is ripe. Yet, when will you know? Meeting a person too early/ late in your life changes perspectives. And for that matter, perspectives change throughout our life stages. Perhaps,you think you caught sight of it, that you have finally found the FRUIT of your life.Sometimes, you discover it hanging teasingly from the tree branch, urging you to pluck it, to give it a gentle bite. But, as it lands in your hand, the fruit starts to feel unreal. You see the unsightly rot at the tip, hidden from your far view when it was hanging on the tree branch.The current mature view of love differs off tangent from the youthful glimpse of love.Maybe you are no longer looking for love, for you have tasted love. Perhaps you are in search of a lifelong partner, now that you have tasted love.

Ask yourself: What are you indeed searching for? I believe the answer lies not far away from resonance of your inner self.

And i wonder too, when i will even have my share of the forbidden fruit, ripe and ready to harvest.

I still believe in the following meaningful quote i posted long ago.

" We are not here to love a perfect person;
We are here to learn how to love an imperfect person to perfection."

First Time Felt On|5:12 PM|

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